NECESSITY FOR A BIBLICAL FOUNDATION IN RELATIONSHIPS

NECESSITY FOR A BIBLICAL FOUNDATION IN RELATIONSHIPS WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY?

When man was created, he was the only being created to be relational, not just inter-relational but intra-relational. He was well in his way intra-relationally, playing with and naming the animals, sharing in their joys, hurts, and, pains. But inter-relationally, there was a void created, one which no animal or even God himself could fill, one that only one of his kind could fill.

With this void ideally filled by man’s kind, there have been overwhelming fall-outs-divorces, abuses- homosexuality and bestiality, exploitation, etc. Given all these, there is a dire need to go back to the drawing board, but more than just going back to the drawing, a need for establishing a common foundation from which relationships ought to be built.

I want to share with us today some necessities for “a biblical foundation in relationships.” On this topic, we shall consider three points; first, a biblical foundation in a relationship makes certain that God’swill would be sought out and pursued in the relationship. Second, a biblical foundation for relationships creates an enabling environment that measures behaviors within a relationship with god’s standard and definition of love. Third, a biblical foundation for relationships would create a proper understanding of commitment and covenant.

First, a biblical foundation in a relationship makes certain that God’s will would be sought out and pursued in the relationship. Relationships, like two sides of a coin, are defined by two imperfect people, with their uneven baggage coming together, and, with this union comes forces intending to pull each to either side; the struggle for dominance, and never for subservience. There’s always the concern for who’s will would prevail. If those in relationships would be sincere, sticking to any others’ will except God’s can be frustrating and never fulfilling.

The images with which the Bible describes ideal relationships are such that when a man loves his wife, it is as though he loves himself, and vice versa (Eph 5:28). What better way to describe selfishness- loving another only to discover you were loving yourself. When we let God’s will prevail in our relationships it ultimately becomes what God wants to prevail in the relationship and not what one party wants over the other.

Second, a biblical foundation for relationships creates an enabling environment that measures behaviors within a relationship with God’s standard and definition of love. Many relationships are broken over and over stereotyped, misguided, sexist, misogynistic, feminist approaches with principles that nowhere measure up to the standard and definition of love.

Spiritual love is not self-love, but rather self-sacrificing love (1 John 3:16-18); it is generous, not selfish or greedy (1 John 4:9-10); is unending, not a temporary feeling, emotion, or attraction(Romans 8:38-39); is undeserving and often unreciprocated (Matthew 5:43-44); is lavish (1 John3:1); and, is more action-oriented than emotion-based (1 John3:18). Third, a biblical foundation for relationships would create a proper understanding of commitment and covenant. Many times people get into a relationship for the emotional rush and not for a right understanding of what commitment and the relationship covenant mean.

To be in a relationship means being committed to a person intentionally. This helps deal with the usual trend of feeble concerns like a lack of chemistry; unwillingness to work on the relationship; one-sided attraction; and, unhealthy expectations. When people in a relationship realize that they are in a relationship for the long haul, under the guidance of godly influences, the impulse to ‘chicken out,’ ‘to raise the white flag,’ or ‘to close shop and go home,’ would be drastically curtailed as they would be more diligent to see that the relationship works.

Conclusion

In conclusion, the world has its definition of what a relationship should be like, unfortunately, the Christian youth is yet to define the Bible view of what a relationship should look like. The average Christian youth wants to play hide-and-seek, relationships behind closed doors. But when we realize that venturing into a relationship is simply fulfilling God’s design for both sexes, we would, like the Hebrews writer said, “… come boldly…” to the halls of relationship. Christian youth, as I conclude, please be encouraged that the need to be in a relationship is legitimate, do not be shy, overwhelmed, or embarrassed, but approach the relationship God’s way. God bless you.

Author: Bro Kizito Jasper, presently working with West Nigeria Christian College Abeokuta, Ogun State.

NECESSITY FOR A BIBLICAL FOUNDATION IN RELATIONSHIPS WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY?
Bro Kizito Jasper, presently working with West Nigeria Christian College Abeokuta, Ogun State. He will be telling us about the Necessity for a Biblical Foundation in Relationships.
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